It was at La Palapa in the East Village that Ashley and Xuan first crossed paths – thanks to a friend’s birthday party. Ashley was intrigued, and Xuan “definitely wanted to see Ashley again.” Although New York City inherently creates complicated and busy schedules, they made it a priority to spend quality time together – an important choice they credit to the success of their relationship.
Not too long after, on a rainy Saturday morning, Xuan surprised Ashley with breakfast. “Nothing fancy and nothing over the top,” he says. This is when he popped the question. “Waking up next to Ashley every morning means the world to me and I wanted to capture that moment for our engagement.”
What are three things you wish you’d known before planning your wedding?
First, take the whole week off before your wedding. Second, your wedding day feels like a marathon and a sprint at the same time. Third, your wedding day is the start of your commitment and journey to grow your love and faith in one another.
What is your most treasured memory from your day?
Meeting at the altar during the ceremony, and celebrating with friends and family from all walks of life, all together in one room.
What would you say is the most valuable thing you’ve learned from one another?
Life has its continuous ups and downs. We’ve learned to always try our best to support one another and work together as a team.
Your wedding day is the start of your commitment and journey to grow your love and faith in one another.
What were the personalized components of your day?
We incorporated some of Xuan’s Chinese traditions by serving our elders tea, hand dipping fortune cookies as favors, and celebrating with a Chinese Dragon Dance.
Is there anything you would do differently?
If only we could have gotten married earlier so some of our grandparents and godparents who have passed could have attended in person.
We kept it simple - black tie. We felt something simple was fitting for the setting of Oakmont Country Club, which is both timeless and elegant on its own.