Q1

When and how did the two of you meet, and what is most memorable about your first meeting?

ELYSSA: The first time Tyler + I REALLY met was at a Cinco De Mayo party at one of my best friend’s parent’s house our senior year of high school. Although we were living in the same town at the time, we went to different schools and never really crossed paths. I was driving in the car with a mutual friend of ours (unknown to us) when he stopped the car to say hi to Tyler in our neighborhood. After we drove away Tyler texted him telling him how cute he thought I was, so our friend thought it would be a good idea to bring Tyler to this party so we could meet. From that day on we continued to talk, decided to start dating even though we were going to separate colleges in different states, and the rest is history. After 12 years of being together we finally got married ☺
TYLER: During high school, Lyss moved down the street from me and I always wondered who this smoke show was driving around in the neighborhood. Eventually, a childhood friend of mine, who also happened to be a great friend of Lyss’, made the connection, but told me I had no chance with her. Long story short, he introduced us, and it turns out she knew who I was for years, and the rest is history.

It was important to us to have our friends and family come to a place they could spend a few days enjoying, and to enjoy quality time with everyone.

Elyssa

Q2

What is the most valuable thing that you have learned from each other?

ELYSSA: How lucky I am to have found real, true love in my best friend and partner. I know I can always rely on him to have my back, support me, love me, make me laugh and bring me back down to reality (when needed). Also, that it’s possible to love someone so much that it’s hard to really even put it into words.
TYLER: To love someone is nothing. To be loved is something. But to love someone and have that person love you back, is everything.

When we saw each other for the first time we both completely broke down and fell in love all over again.

Tyler

Q3

How did the proposal unfold? Was it a surprise?

TYLER: Our family and friends are loud and I wanted it to be intimate, so I proposed in solitude to Lyss in NYC and then surprised her with a celebration with everyone waiting around the corner. Lyss was surprised by it all.
ELYSSA: Yes, it was a complete surprise (and I truly always thought I’d at least have an idea when it was going to happen), especially after 12 years, but I had no clue! Tyler proposed on June 30, 2018 in New York City. At the time he had been working on a startup and said we were going to fly into NYC before heading home to Connecticut for the week of the 4th of July. The plan was to get showered and take our dog Bruschi for a walk before heading out to dinner. He began to get frustrated with me, telling me I needed to be dressed for the walk because the thought of coming back before dinner and waiting for me to possibly change my outfit, etc. was already stressing him out. I of course put up a little fight with him about this, but eventually gave in. While we were out on the walk, he stopped and proposed to me on a quiet street and I was in complete and utter shock, to the point that I thought it was a joke until he got down on one knee. It was one of the best days of my life.

Prior to the wedding we were at The Breakers and Bob Kraft walked by and gave me a head nod. As a Patriots fan, I knew it was fate — Bob had just blessed our marriage.

Tyler

Q4

What did you base your choice of location on?

TYLER: The Breakers is a beautiful place. Prior to the wedding we were having lunch at The Breakers with my parents and Bob Kraft walked by our table and gave me a head nod. As a Patriots fan, I knew it was fate — Bob had just blessed our marriage.
ELYSSA: We originally always thought we would get married somewhere on the water in the Northeast, as we’re both from Connecticut, but we quickly changed our minds. It was important to us to also have our friends and family come to a place they could spend a few days enjoying and we wanted to be able to enjoy quality time with everyone not only on the wedding day, but also the days leading up.

Your wedding goes by in the blink of an eye, try to enjoy the entire process together and not stress too much because everything WILL come together just as you wanted it to.

Elyssa

Q5

What was your most memorable moment?

BOTH: Even though we both went to different schools, lived and grew up in different places (for the most part), after 12 years of being together our lives had truly already become one. Lyss’ family is my family and Ty’s family is my family. Our friends, from all walks of lives have all become friends and know both families so well. It’s such an amazing thing and it was no surprise that our wedding was basically one HUGE family. Realizing that during the wedding, was an incredible moment.
Although this may seem obvious, the other most memorable moment from our wedding was seeing each other for the first time. We both completely broke down and fell in love all over again.

I was just so happy and in-the-moment the entire time that the idea that something could go wrong never even crossed my mind.

Elyssa

Q6

Did anything surprise you?

TYLER: No. Lyss is someone who knows what she wants and she makes it happen, so I had high expectations, yet was still blow away by everything.
ELYSSA: I was absolutely shocked by how calm I felt, since I’m not the “chilliest” person in the world. I just kept waiting for the perfectionist in me to kick in and start obsessing over the way everything would look, questioning if everything would be placed perfectly, etc., but the anxiety never came. I was just so happy and in-the-moment the entire time that the idea that something could go wrong never even crossed my mind.

To love someone and have that person love you back, is everything.

Tyler

Q7

Do you have any wedding planning advice that you’d like to share with other couples planning their day?

TYLER: When it comes down to it, your opinions are appreciated but ultimately don’t really matter and the smaller details that you had an opinion on, you won’t even notice on the day of your wedding. Food, drinks and music are no longer the only pillars that measure the quality of a wedding. These days documenting it is equally important. Done right, it allows the people who couldn’t make your wedding to relive it as if they were in attendance. But most importantly it provides content for your wife’s Instagram. Ira and his team delivered unbelievable photography and we are fortunate to have secured The Day for our day.
ELYSSA: Your wedding goes by in the blink of an eye and so just enjoy every moment on that day, because it’s a once in a lifetime experience you want to remember forever. Also, easier said than done, but try to enjoy the entire process together and not stress too much because everything WILL come together just as you wanted it to.

Q8

Describe your day in three words.

ELYSSA: Perfection, Emotional, Non-Stop-Dancing
TYLER: Class, Class, Class

Our day in 3 words: Perfection, Emotional, Non-Stop-Dancing

Elyssa

It was no surprise that our wedding was basically one HUGE family. Realizing that was an incredible moment.

E & T

Q9

What do you hope your guests remember most about your wedding day?

BOTH: How much love was in the room and the gratitude we both have for each and every one of our guests for being a part of our big day.

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    Ira Lippke

As the founder and creative force behind The Day, Ira Lippke brings 20-plus years of experience creating compelling images to every wedding he documents. “One of the best compliments I’ve ever received,” he says, “was from a planner who said I was the only photographer she knew who had so much experience but whose heart and soul was still so strongly in their work.”

Ira Lippke