As Remy puts it, she and Craig were living parallel lives. Their social circles often overlapping and intertwining, their paths finally crossed on a winter’s night in the city – a game of Jenga pulling them into one another’s orbit. “One friendly game of Jenga quickly turned into an intimate — and competitive — Connect Four battle between the two of us,” says Remy. Technically a “connection game,” it’s appropriate that Connect Four is what ultimately brought the two of them together. “Craig says he threw the games to get the girl, but really, he had met his match.”
Is there a memory of each other from your day that stands out most in your memory?
Remy: Hands down, Craig crying during our ceremony. Sharing our vows before our friends and family was an incredibly special moment in itself. Craig started to get choked up before saying his vows and my brother, our officiant, offered him another sip of wine from our Kiddush cup. There was some great ad-libbing and I will always remember that funny, sweet, emotional experience.
Craig: There were so many great memories but reading our vows to each other stands out most to me. I was in the moment with the most important person in my life, telling her every reason why I love her and why I want to spend the rest of my life with her. For our guests, they got to see me cry, cry some more, and cry again. I think that was probably a stand out memory for them too.
Some couples choose to have a First Look, others don't. Why was having a First Look important to you?
Remy: We wanted to enjoy the wedding! The night flies by and we wanted to be present for all of it. We also wanted some quality alone time before being surrounded by others for the rest of the night.
Craig: We decided to have a First Look so that we could have one of the more emotional moments be intimate. In the end, that didn’t help me much because I cried like a baby during our ceremony anyway.
What aspects of your wedding most reflected your personality?
Remy: We wanted our wedding to feel as natural and intimate as possible. This started with the setting and ambiance which was romantic, warm and welcoming. We incorporated personal touches throughout our wedding from my brother officiating our ceremony to having ice cream cones (Craig’s favorite food) as a dessert option. Our first dance was to “Loving You Easy” by Zac Brown Band which was the first concert we went to together with a bunch of our friends who were at our wedding. I also have to admit that it was planned to a T, which is very “me.”
Craig: Blue Hill Stone Barns represented all the things that Remy and I love. We both fell in love with it immediately – it’s elegant, relaxed, naturally beautiful, and just felt like it fit us.
The night flies by and we wanted to be present for all of it. We also wanted some quality alone time before being surrounded by others for the rest of the night.
What did planning your wedding teach you about yourself or each other?
Remy: It taught me that I need to ask for help more and highlighted that we’re a great team.
Craig: I already knew we were a great team, but this experience really convinced me that we should audition for The Amazing Race. I think we could win it!
What was the first planning decision you made?
Remy: The location. As soon as I arrived at Blue Hill Stone Barns I knew it was the place where I wanted to get married. It’s absolutely beautiful in an understated, natural way. It has a sophisticated, yet laid-back vibe and I felt it spoke to who Craig and I are. The stonework and the big tree in the courtyard also reminded me of my childhood home. What really did us in was when the BHSB Event Director recognized my mother on our first tour because he had planned my grandparents’ 50th anniversary party in 2004. They are both now deceased and this connection made it feel as if my grandparents were there with us. Also, it goes without saying… THE FOOD!
Craig: The first big decision for me was the best one… asking my wife to marry me. I am not sure if I ever really made a decision on my own during the wedding planning process because Remy never makes a wrong one, so I wasn’t too worried.
What part of the wedding planning process did you most enjoy?
Remy: I loved experiencing the design process and seeing it all come to life! From the invitations, which had a touch of lavender florals, to incorporating the same design on our welcome boxes, dance floor and in the bridal party bouquets. There was a common thread from start to finish and it all came together beautifully. I also loved being able to go home to Greenwich for meetings and spend so much time with my mom. It was a special way for me and Craig to begin forming our own connection to my hometown.
Craig: Remy and I tend to overthink how certain things will impact others. It was a nice change to make decisions solely based on what we wanted and saw for ourselves.
I was in the moment with the most important person in my life, telling her every reason why I love her and why I want to spend the rest of my life with her.
Blue Hill Stone Barns represented all the things that Remy and I love. We both fell in love with it immediately – it’s elegant, relaxed, naturally beautiful, and just felt like it fit us.
Remy and I tend to overthink how certain things will impact others. It was a nice change to make decisions solely based on what we wanted and saw for ourselves.
Did anything surprise you?
Remy: I expected to be more nervous and I was really surprised at how calm I felt throughout the day. I thought it would hit me right before I walked down the aisle, but I think knowing that Craig was at the other end calmed my nerves and just made me happy and ready to get married!
Craig: There is so much going on the day of your wedding and a lot happens that you are not aware of. After we returned from our honeymoon we heard a couple of epic stories from our friends. I will not name names but I am pretty sure our single friends weren’t really single by the end of the night.
Is there anything you would do differently?
Remy: Nothing! It was a perfect day.
Craig: I would never change the best day of my life.
What advice would you offer to newly engaged couples?
Remy: Once you reach your wedding day, let the planning go! Trust yourself that you’ve prepared as much as possible, if anything is out of place, it’s likely that only you will notice. Find some alone time with your new spouse during your wedding because the day goes by so fast and you are constantly surrounded by people.
Craig: Relax. There is a lot of planning but always remember why you are doing it and who you are doing it for. Try to enjoy everything about the process, from the moment you are engaged until the last guest leaves, soak it all in.
Try to enjoy everything about the process, from the moment you are engaged until the last guest leaves, soak it all in.